Wanting to wish everyone a Merry Christmas and Happy New Year.
We couldn't have done what we did this year with out your support.
2012 is going to be a great year for Empowered Parents of Central Florida.
3 things you can do for us still this year.
-Donate, we are a 501c3 non-profit. Helps us scholarship lots of parents.
-Promote this blog, share & like us on facebook.
-Tell parents you know there is help for them: www.theparenthelpcenter.com
Blessing to you and yours this Christmas,
Jesse, Hope, Justus, & Elli Kegg
Thursday, December 8, 2011
Tuesday, November 15, 2011
November's EP Conference
What a great weekend we had November 11-13. There were 10 parents that came out to our 4th Empowered Parent Conference. Hope and I were able to get to know and serve these parents. What strikes me over and over is that these are good parents. They just have strong-willed children and don't have the tools to parent them effectively. Now they do. Now they have a plan. Now they have hope. That's what we do.
What's next is that we will plug these parents into weekly support group, were we can continue to coach them and encourage them to be Empowered Parents. Until then they have homework that they need to do. 1. Tell their kids they love them everyday. 2. Give them a positive stroke. 3. Refuse to argue with them.
On Friday night one parent went home and told their strong-willed teen they love them. The teen told them, "get out of my room." The next morning before the conference they told their teen, "We love you." The teen responded "I love yo.... hey leave me alone!" In our world that is a small miracle and we'll take it.
Can't wait until December to help more hurting parents.
What's next is that we will plug these parents into weekly support group, were we can continue to coach them and encourage them to be Empowered Parents. Until then they have homework that they need to do. 1. Tell their kids they love them everyday. 2. Give them a positive stroke. 3. Refuse to argue with them.
On Friday night one parent went home and told their strong-willed teen they love them. The teen told them, "get out of my room." The next morning before the conference they told their teen, "We love you." The teen responded "I love yo.... hey leave me alone!" In our world that is a small miracle and we'll take it.
Can't wait until December to help more hurting parents.
Tuesday, November 1, 2011
How to talk with your children about behavior.
Here are some great tips to think about when talking with your children about problematic behavior, page 20 of the Parent Project book. Remember it takes work to be a parent.
1. Timing. Am I calm enough to talk with my child? Remember never confront your children in anger, anger breeds hostility and will only serve to divide a parent and child. First address your own anger, calm yourself then go speak to your child.
2. Develop a plan or an outline. Do you know what you are going to say when you speak with your children? Write down your thoughts. Remember kids are smart and will try to change the subject. Tell your children how you feel, but remember don't be sarcastic or use put downs to get your point across.
3. Pick a private, neutral location and..
4. Minimize interruptions. Turn of the cell phone, tv, radio, be present with your child. Both of these tips show how important your child is to you and that you love and care for them.
5. Prepare for the worst. You never know what your child might say. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. How you react when they share things with you will determine if they ever share something with you again.
Most parents don't have a plan and are not calm enough to speak with their children. If you want to help change your children's behavior you need to change yours first.
1. Timing. Am I calm enough to talk with my child? Remember never confront your children in anger, anger breeds hostility and will only serve to divide a parent and child. First address your own anger, calm yourself then go speak to your child.
2. Develop a plan or an outline. Do you know what you are going to say when you speak with your children? Write down your thoughts. Remember kids are smart and will try to change the subject. Tell your children how you feel, but remember don't be sarcastic or use put downs to get your point across.
3. Pick a private, neutral location and..
4. Minimize interruptions. Turn of the cell phone, tv, radio, be present with your child. Both of these tips show how important your child is to you and that you love and care for them.
5. Prepare for the worst. You never know what your child might say. Hope for the best, but prepare for the worst. How you react when they share things with you will determine if they ever share something with you again.
Most parents don't have a plan and are not calm enough to speak with their children. If you want to help change your children's behavior you need to change yours first.
Thursday, October 27, 2011
We need partners.
Starting November 1st we will have been in Lake County for four months. What God has achieved in those four months is nothing short of a miracle. God has been very gracious to us and opened up huge doors. Hope and I are convinced that we have been sent back to Lake County/Central Florida to help families.
Here is an update of what has happened so far:
Held two Empowered Parent Conferences and 1 Camp Consequence. Have a huge network that are sharing info about Empowered Parents. Every principal in Lake County schools has our information to share with parents, Lake County Sheriff's Office has our cards to give to families, working with local churches to host EPC's. Done a couple of press releases and had interviews with local TV, newspapers, and magazines. Using social media (facebook and twitter) to reach more families, and speaking to a number of local clubs (Rotary, Kiwanis, etc.).
All of this is wonderful but we are still lacking one thing, word of mouth, parents that have gone through our EPC and Camp. As we continue to build, we need those hurting families to see and experience the change we have offer.
How can you partner with us? Here are 3 ways you can help.
1. Pray. Pray for parents to find out about us. Pray for parents to come. Pray for us to have the right connections in our community. Pray for local churches and schools to reach out to the help we offer. Become a prayer partner. Email us at jesse@theparenthelpcenter.com and I can update you weekly on our prayer concerns.
2. Give. Yes we need your money. We need to make a living and by doing so we can help more families. We also use these funds to help sponsor families to come to an EPC. We are a non-profit tax-deductible organization. You can sponsor us with $30 a month or give a one time gift. Donate here.
3. Advocate. Help us get the word out. Tell your friends, your church leaders, follow us on our Facebook page and Twitter, share our posts with others. Get me in front of your local club, church, school to share our vision and what we do.
We are so blessed to serve in this way and look forward to sharing with you what is coming down the road.
Changed parents will see changed kids.
Jesse & Hope Kegg
www.theparenthelpcenter.com
www.forlakecountyfl.com
jesse@theparenthelpcenter.com
904-669-7722
Here is an update of what has happened so far:
Held two Empowered Parent Conferences and 1 Camp Consequence. Have a huge network that are sharing info about Empowered Parents. Every principal in Lake County schools has our information to share with parents, Lake County Sheriff's Office has our cards to give to families, working with local churches to host EPC's. Done a couple of press releases and had interviews with local TV, newspapers, and magazines. Using social media (facebook and twitter) to reach more families, and speaking to a number of local clubs (Rotary, Kiwanis, etc.).
All of this is wonderful but we are still lacking one thing, word of mouth, parents that have gone through our EPC and Camp. As we continue to build, we need those hurting families to see and experience the change we have offer.
How can you partner with us? Here are 3 ways you can help.
1. Pray. Pray for parents to find out about us. Pray for parents to come. Pray for us to have the right connections in our community. Pray for local churches and schools to reach out to the help we offer. Become a prayer partner. Email us at jesse@theparenthelpcenter.com and I can update you weekly on our prayer concerns.
2. Give. Yes we need your money. We need to make a living and by doing so we can help more families. We also use these funds to help sponsor families to come to an EPC. We are a non-profit tax-deductible organization. You can sponsor us with $30 a month or give a one time gift. Donate here.
3. Advocate. Help us get the word out. Tell your friends, your church leaders, follow us on our Facebook page and Twitter, share our posts with others. Get me in front of your local club, church, school to share our vision and what we do.
We are so blessed to serve in this way and look forward to sharing with you what is coming down the road.
Changed parents will see changed kids.
Jesse & Hope Kegg
www.theparenthelpcenter.com
www.forlakecountyfl.com
jesse@theparenthelpcenter.com
904-669-7722
Wednesday, October 19, 2011
Article in Local Magazine.
Lake Magazine is did an article on us. We have been featured in the October issue. They did a great job and we are blessed to partner with people who care about our community. Huge thanks to the Walkers, Blair, Missy, Michael, and Glenn.
Coach-able Parents.
I remember when I first started playing basketball. It was my junior year of high school and it was more street-ball, every man for himself, than any thing else. When I went to college I started to play, for the first time, organized basketball. What a huge different! Street-ball is all about me and what I could do, in college it was about the team, being coach-able, and running the plays. Now whenever I play a pick-up game I wish they would work as a team, wish they had a coach to remind us what plays to run.
Parenting is no different. Most parents are doing it on their own. Lots of moms and dads are running their own plays, not even working together. Parents need to be on the same team, run the same plays, and coached. Really that's what we do. We have a great play book, The Parent Project, we have a great team, other Empower Parents, and we know how to win.
We need those parents who are coach-able, ready to do whatever it takes to win! We can't help them if they don't want to run the right plays. If you know a parent that is coach-able and having a hard time with a strong-willed child, let them know about Empowered Parents. www.theparenthelpcenter.com
Parenting is no different. Most parents are doing it on their own. Lots of moms and dads are running their own plays, not even working together. Parents need to be on the same team, run the same plays, and coached. Really that's what we do. We have a great play book, The Parent Project, we have a great team, other Empower Parents, and we know how to win.
We need those parents who are coach-able, ready to do whatever it takes to win! We can't help them if they don't want to run the right plays. If you know a parent that is coach-able and having a hard time with a strong-willed child, let them know about Empowered Parents. www.theparenthelpcenter.com
Thursday, October 13, 2011
Influencing and Motivating Children
Everyone loves a pat on the back when they have done something well. Children are no different. The issue is that it is so much easier to focus on negative behaviors and never say anything about good behaviors. How can we shaped and mold our children if 90% of the time we focus on the negative. Here is a quote from the Parent Project book:
"Parents can motivate strong-willed children to change by providing positive strokes or positive consequences for unwanted behaviors. Parents should recognize or give positive stokes to their children when they catch them doing something right."
Parenting is hard work. If we want to raise respectful children then we need to roll up our selves and do it! Try to find something positive they did, no matter how small, and praise them for it. Tell them how proud you are, great job, way to go, keep up the good work, etc. You will see your children start to make more and more good choices. Next post I will discuss how to talk with your children about their bad choices.
"Parents can motivate strong-willed children to change by providing positive strokes or positive consequences for unwanted behaviors. Parents should recognize or give positive stokes to their children when they catch them doing something right."
Parenting is hard work. If we want to raise respectful children then we need to roll up our selves and do it! Try to find something positive they did, no matter how small, and praise them for it. Tell them how proud you are, great job, way to go, keep up the good work, etc. You will see your children start to make more and more good choices. Next post I will discuss how to talk with your children about their bad choices.
Tuesday, October 4, 2011
Parenting strong-willed children
We use a great parenting resource called the Parent Project. Here is a great quote from the book regarding strong-willed children.
"Generally speaking, strong-willed adolescents learn about life by trying it themselves. They do not accept parental input nor are they willing to use the mistakes of others as learning experiences for themselves. The frequently heard adolescent phrase, "It's OK; that wont happen to me," is especially true for this child. This is why just talking to the strong-willed child about unwanted behavior is generally ineffective. Their stubborn-ness, curiosity, lack of fear, and desire to experience things first-hand, usually mean they will do what they want, even when they know they are breaking the rules. Strong-willed children often engage in such behaviors quite impulsively."
Parent Project 2009 page 2
"Generally speaking, strong-willed adolescents learn about life by trying it themselves. They do not accept parental input nor are they willing to use the mistakes of others as learning experiences for themselves. The frequently heard adolescent phrase, "It's OK; that wont happen to me," is especially true for this child. This is why just talking to the strong-willed child about unwanted behavior is generally ineffective. Their stubborn-ness, curiosity, lack of fear, and desire to experience things first-hand, usually mean they will do what they want, even when they know they are breaking the rules. Strong-willed children often engage in such behaviors quite impulsively."
Parent Project 2009 page 2
Monday, October 3, 2011
We are in the local paper.
I was contacted last week from our local paper and they ran a story on us. We are working hard to get the word out to parents. Please read and share this article with others.
http://www.dailycommercial.com/localnews/story/100211BadKids
http://www.dailycommercial.com/localnews/story/100211BadKids
Monday, September 26, 2011
Camp Sept. 2011
Here are a number of pictures from Camp.
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| Meal Time |
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| Boys from the our Boys Farms |
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| Waiting for bed time |
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| Teaching Parents |
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| Counseling session |
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| Sunday Morning Church Service |
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| Forgivness |
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| Joy |
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| Family |
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