Everyone loves a pat on the back when they have done something well. Children are no different. The issue is that it is so much easier to focus on negative behaviors and never say anything about good behaviors. How can we shaped and mold our children if 90% of the time we focus on the negative. Here is a quote from the Parent Project book:
"Parents can motivate strong-willed children to change by providing positive strokes or positive consequences for unwanted behaviors. Parents should recognize or give positive stokes to their children when they catch them doing something right."
Parenting is hard work. If we want to raise respectful children then we need to roll up our selves and do it! Try to find something positive they did, no matter how small, and praise them for it. Tell them how proud you are, great job, way to go, keep up the good work, etc. You will see your children start to make more and more good choices. Next post I will discuss how to talk with your children about their bad choices.
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